Recognising that you are being abused is an important step. Where you go from here is up to you. You may feel you need time to think about your situation. Or perhaps you have already made up your mind to leave. Whatever you decide, your safety is always the priority.
Not everyone will want or choose to leave an abusive relationship. Staying safe from domestic abuse involves taking sensible precautions. This information may help you stay safe or be prepared if you decide to leave:
- If you are in danger please call 999
- See a doctor when you are injured; consider keeping a record of violent incidents and photographing bruises and injuries in case you decide to prosecute in future
- See a solicitor as soon as you can if you think you may need an injunction
- Is there a friend you can trust and can go to in an emergency?
- If you are not living with your abuser, make sure that all the door and window locks and lights (inside and out) work properly
- Install a panic alarm if you can
- Keep money for a payphone/taxi and ensure your mobile phone is charged and has credit
- Change your phone number if you are getting threatening calls
- If you receive abusive text messages – save them – they’re useful evidence
- Teach your children what to do in an emergency, help them make a safety plan too
- Keep a bag packed with essentials including important documents and medication.
- If your abuser contacts you at work, tell your boss and colleagues; ask them to call the police in an emergency.
- Tell your personnel officer or Union representative may be able to help you.
Our Outreach/IDVA Service will be able to support you and help you to plan your safety they can be contacted on firstname.lastname@example.org or
0808 801 0882. Calls to this helpline are free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK and do not appear on itemised bills.