Leaving an abusive partner is difficult and challenging. There are all sorts of good reasons why a woman may not be ready to leave and abusive relationship:
- She may still care for her partner and hope that they will change (many women don’t necessarily want to leave the relationship, they just want the violence to stop).
- She may feel ashamed about what has happened or believe that it is her fault.
- She may be scared of the future (where she will go, what she will do for money, whether she will have to hide forever and what will happen to the children).
- She may worry about money, and supporting herself and her children.
- She may feel too exhausted or unsure to make any decisions.
- She may be isolated from family or friends or be prevented from leaving the home or reaching out for help.
- She may not know where to go.
- She may have low self-esteem as a result of the abuse.
- She may believe that it is better to stay for the sake of the children (e.g. wanting a father for her children and/or wishing to prevent the stigma associated with being a single parent).
All of these factors are pressures on the person suffering abuse. Talking to someone can help – so for advice and support call the BWA helpline.